A friend of ours emailed this to us....thought it would be good to share to encourage you parents of young folks (like us)......Enjoy! The website it is from is linked below!
Help! My Kids Are Trying Sex, Drugs, and Rock 'n Roll!
Is this your worst nightmare? That your kids will fall away from the values you have tried to teach them? That they will go off and experiment with the most dangerous activities and that they will be nothing like the people you raised them to be?
You are not alone. These are the greatest fears of many parents.
Are you ready for some good news? Time and time again, we've seen that when young people rebel or get off track in life, relationship brings them back. Research even supports the notion that relationship is the greatest factor predicting whether kids will remain true to their parents' values…or rebel against them.
Is that incredible or what? More than what books they read, what schools they attend, what shows they watch, what activities in which they participate, even the friends they choose - the quality of our relationship makes the greatest difference.
This is one reason Love and Logic puts so much emphasis on avoiding arguments and power struggles with kids. If the loving bond with our kids is not intact, all the best limits, techniques, and accountability will not get us to our goal of raising great kids.
There may be times when the wisest thing parents can do is set aside control battles over things like haircuts, fashion, or even grades - and focus on building the most loving relationship possible.
Some parents decide to suspend the fight and do things with their kids that they truly enjoy. They focus on what they like about the kid and what brings them together.
Is it possible that an afternoon playing a favorite game or rooting for a team we love could be more powerful than months and years of nagging kids to be more like us?
Take heart. Young people are notorious for experimenting, for trying on identities, and for straining to distance themselves from their "old" parents. And if we have great relationships with them, they often come around in wonderful ways - to be great people just like us!
Thanks for reading! Our goal is to help as many families as possible. If this is a benefit, forward this article to a friend.
Jedd Hafer
http://www.loveandlogic.com/
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